Hey, Do You Need A Friend?
I might have just given myself my biggest challenge yet. The Achilles to my heel, the krypto to my night, the ... you get what I'm saying. The time has come for me to face the thing I’ve been casually ignoring for a while now. I'm going to have to make friends with...
people.
That's probably not what you thought I was going to say but, this is HUGE. I've distanced myself from people for quite some time but like I said, with these work outs I've been doing, I'm starting to tone up my problem areas. Over the past few weeks I've been noticing how much more fulfilling life would be if I didn't go at it alone. If I wasn't so wrapped up in my own world, dealing with my own challenges, reading my own story. I think we were all created to be here together.
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I decided I should make friends and genuine connections with people. I decided to see what that life was like. I mean... what was the worst that could happen? I've been affirming to myself that I have genuine connections with people and I'm surrounded by amazing people but honestly, I didn't seize many of the opportunities that presented themselves to me. I guess you can say I "chikn'd out" of the challenge.
But I can't run from this anymore. A few days ago... something happened. I was sitting in my living room and all of a sudden I heard voices outside. I heard voices outside that were pretty close. In fact, I hadn't heard them that close since my neighbor moved out over a year ago...
I peeped out the window and saw two ladies with a red truck loaded with two couches.
I had a new neighbor!
A nightmare! A minute later, I asked myself, "why are you, once again, trying to run in the opposite direction of your new goal? You've been wanting to communicate with people around you for the longest and the Universe literally just sent an entire human being to your door. This is an opportunity, this will be good for you. Relax." I took a deep breath and centered myself. I put this request in months ago and then forgot all about it.
I gave myself a pep talk: I am going to make friends. I just have to put some effort behind making them because the friends are not making themselves. I will commit to introducing myself to new people and taking this opportunity. I'll probably be googling "how to make friends" for the next two weeks but hey, if that's a part of the process, I ain't mad. I'm so glad this Solution presented itself to me.
In a world full of people who are more connected than ever, we're the most disconnected. I'm sure I'm not the only one out here who feels disconnected from the people around me and right here as I type this, I just got an amazing idea. What if we start a community of people built around 71 Solutions? That would be an amazing community! I can already feel the vibes.
Look for a post on the forum so we can start a new family there.
Reading Solution "#2: Value Your Neighbor'' sealed in the truth of this level. It brought me more clarity on where I am and it made me see that I do need to connect with people around me. I need to be a part of a community so that I'm surrounded by people who genuinely care about me, and I, them. I can only imagine how it would feel to be supported, especially with all the changes occurring around me. I have plenty of time before I get to be the older lady with 7 cats, but right now, I need some friends. I’m going to make that happen.
More than likely, people who are just like me are right around the corner. But until we decide to talk to each other, we will never know. Like Scott says, "wonderful and talented people are all around us, we just have to go and meet them” (pg.8). I'm going to give this theory a try this week. My response to the action idea was, "I can commit to starting and holding a conversation with a neighbor this week." I'm sure it will go great because the neighbors I have met so far have been pretty cool.
Even the people I've been meeting in the past few months have been amazing. I'm already building on this aspect and it's pretty cool to think about. I want to give it the extra energy it needs to really thrive. My relationships will be amazing in the near future. I'll update you when I'm all settled into that new lifestyle.
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What I learned about the world
We're all more connected and more disconnected than we think. I learned we need to come together so we can realize how we are all important to this world and to each other. I also learned the lessons we need to learn will be delivered right to our front door in the form of things we asked for.
What I learned about myself
I learned that I love having friends. I love being with and talking to other people and I am getting back to that. I am no longer that cat lady at the age of 24... with no cats. That is not how I am living my life. I will have more friends soon and I know I will enjoy that.
From this day forward
I will put myself out there. I will make an actual effort to make friends and stop waiting for the friends to make me. I'm open to the idea of new people and new relationships. From this day forward I am connecting with the amazing people around me.
Four Solutions down, 67 to go.